“Bad Sex,” Or The Sex We Don’t Want But Have Anyway
Let me be clear: “bad sex” isn’t rape. By “bad sex,” I mean the sex we have that we don’t want to have but consent to anyway.
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How I Became Internet Famous for Having Herpes — and Why I’m Retiring
The moment you go viral, you lose all control over your story, your privacy and, in some ways, your future.
Read MoreWatch This Charming Short Film About Having Sex After a Herpes Diagnosis
People living with herpes are real, and we deserve to see our experiences in film. Here’s a start.
Read MoreHow the New Facebook Algorithm Affects You, a Normal Person
Are you seeing a lot of irrelevant crap in your Facebook feed? This is why.
Read More“What a Wallflower Wants” Is a Ground-Breaking Romance Novel for the #MeToo Moment
This gorgeous romance novel can teach us a lot about how to honor the experiences of survivors, stand up to perpetrators and acknowledge the flawed social norms that allow rape and harassment to thrive.
Read More“The Backroads” for Exhibit A’s Lyric-Inspired Erotica Contest
“Do you ever think about how exciting it was back then to just… make out?”
Read MoreMy Thoughts on Usher’s Herpes Lawsuit
This is a complicated story where no one wins.
Read MoreWhat The Bold Type Gets Right — and Wrong — About Social Media Abuse
The Freeform series gave us a ground-breaking depiction of online abuse, but it’s far from perfect.
Read MoreBook Review: Roadhouse Blues by Malin James
Malin James weaves something hot and unrelenting out of her experiences as a survivor to create fiction that pulses with dark life.
Read MoreThe Year I Didn’t, Couldn’t and Desperately Wanted to Write
For the last year I’ve been a sex writer who doesn’t write. I haven’t had much sex either, but that’s a different essay.
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