Are You a Girlfriend or a Slut?

April 13, 2021.Reading time 10 minutes.

I spent my teenage years terrified that I was a slut, and therefore I was not the type of girl who could be loved.

You Should Like The People You’re Having Sex With

April 3, 2021.Reading time 7 minutes.

Two smiling women are in bed together. One woman touches the other woman's cheek.

The best casual sex — the best sex, period — happens between partners with a shared investment in each other’s wellbeing.

Am I Bisexual Enough For You?

March 15, 2021.Reading time 14 minutes.

Women fill me with warm fear. I do not know how to flirt with them, or even how to formulate complete sentences.

The Kind of Girl Who Gets Herpes

March 8, 2021.Reading time 32 minutes.

“I guess this is what I get for falling for a girl like you.” An insult tossed off so casually, so precisely designed to gut me.

BREAKUP SEX

January 18, 2021.Reading time 37 minutes.

Sex can be a vital language for two people who have run out of words, or for whom words are cheap and ineffective, unable to capture the wealth of tangled emotion still living in their chests.

There Is No Cure For Burnout

November 18, 2019.Reading time 27 minutes.

I’m afraid that there is no cure for burnout. After all, you can’t untoast toast.

Stop Calling It “Casual Sex”

March 28, 2019.Reading time 13 minutes.

Our concept of “casual sex” has given us permission to be casual with each other’s humanity.

How Much Is Your Voice Worth?

April 1, 2021.Reading time 10 minutes.

Was my voice worth anything? How do you put a price on writing that you’d always made available to the world for free?

Fiction: The Love Interest

March 6, 2021.Reading time 20 minutes.

She hadn’t stopped thinking about Ian since that night, and it seemed like such a waste to walk away from someone who might be worth sticking around for.

Ryan From ‘Promising Young Woman’ Fucked Me Up

February 18, 2021.Reading time 8 minutes.

Watching Promising Young Woman felt like taking a fork in my fist and then jabbing it into my right temple. The film left me bleeding for days.

When Your One-Night-Stand Ignores You On Campus

January 31, 2021.Reading time 7 minutes.

How humiliating and bizarre, to feel so close to someone and then watch him bolt out of the cafeteria when you got up to refill your Diet Coke.

This Is Not a Normal Work Week

January 7, 2021.Reading time 7 minutes.

Is your mind racing while you try to focus on a task you’d find simple on any other day? That’s because you just witnessed an attempted coup.