An Anxious Writer Joins Patreon
My dream in life is to be able to support myself with my writing. I do not know if that day will ever come, not because of my talent, or my voice, or my courage, but because I am garbage at email.
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ASK ELLA: How Do I Tell Someone I Have Herpes?
Telling someone you’re interested in that you have herpes means making yourself vulnerable.
Read MoreThese Are Not Conditions in Which to Thrive
This is a time to survive. Your only responsibility is to get through today.
Read MoreThere Is No Cure For Burnout
I’m afraid that there is no cure for burnout. After all, you can’t untoast toast.
Read MoreYou Deserve a Partner Who Texts You Back
Maybe not immediately, maybe not every single time, but reliably and honestly and with care.
Read MoreStop Calling It “Casual Sex”
Our concept of “casual sex” has given us permission to be casual with each other’s humanity.
Read More“Bad Sex,” Or The Sex We Don’t Want But Have Anyway
Let me be clear: “bad sex” isn’t rape. By “bad sex,” I mean the sex we have that we don’t want to have but consent to anyway.
Read MoreAsk Ella: Should I Date Someone with Herpes?
Whatever you decide, I hope you treat your “someone” with the respect and thoughtfulness you’re showing now as you learn about their virus.
Read MoreShould You Publicly Disclose Your Herpes Diagnosis?
It is brave to share your STI status. Public disclosure is an act of generosity that is not without risk and consequence.
Read MoreThe Ripple Pandemic: Coronavirus and Mental Health
What will COVID-19 mean for our mental health?
Read MoreStop Publicly Defending Your Friends
At the end of the day, the best way for us to help our friend and their victim is to react in private.
Read MoreConfessions of a Burned Out Writer
Here’s what I know. My confidence is the lowest it has ever been.
Read MoreElizabeth Warren Asks the Most Important Question of 2020
Who could you be if you weren’t afraid? Who could you be if you could focus on what matters to you?
Read More14 of the Best Books I Read in 2019
It’s an impossible task to boil down the best books out of everything I read this year, and I know better than to try. That said, here are some highlights!
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