BACHELORELLA: JoJo’s Season of The Bachelorette Is Terrible. We Are All Terrible.
Let’s be real: this season sucks.
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Why I’m Taking a Summer Vacation From Activism
Barring an unforeseen celebrity scandal, I don’t want to publish the word “herpes” until the heat breaks in Brooklyn.
Read MoreMaybe He Doesn’t Hit You
Maybe he doesn’t hit you but he collects your infractions and lines them up on his desk like so many surgical knives.
Read MoreHow to Give a TEDx Talk When the Internet Wants You to Shut the Fuck Up
The abuse we received for #ShoutYourStatus was intensely gendered, violent, sexual and dehumanizing.
Read MoreYou Don’t Need to Forgive People Who Hurt You
You do not need to forgive people who have been abusive to you. You do not need to rise above them, or make peace with them, or even pity them. You need to do whatever is best for you.
Read MoreWhy STDRegistry.com Is Disgusting, and Outing Your Ex as STI+ Makes You an Asshole
I stopped. I went back and read the paragraph again. STDRegistry. STDRegistry. No. Absolutely not.
Read MoreEverything 2015 Taught Me About Harassment
It would be easy to say 2015 was about herpes. In reality, this year was about my voice and the Internet and growing up and falling short. I conquered some demons by capturing a specter in words. I gained a few thousand Twitter followers. I broke my own heart and never wrote about it. I moved into […]
Read MoreWe Can’t Allow Sexual Harassment In The Herpes Community
UPDATE 4/21/2016: Although I will always stand by the contents of the letter below, I no longer feel comfortable endorsing the work of Rafaella Gunz going forward. While I wish her well, we have professional differences as activists and as writers. The headline of this post has been changed to reflect that. No matter the circumstances, the sexual […]
Read MoreDear Internet Commenters Who Really Don’t Want Herpes,
Your Facebook comments have made me think. I’m not being facetious—whenever I read a comment from someone (usually a man) upset that rejecting someone who has an STI makes you a bad person, I wonder why you are so alarmed and defensive. When have I ever said that turning down someone herpes+ makes you a […]
Read MoreWhy “Peeple” Is Dangerous To Survivors… and, Really, Anyone
UPDATE 3/7/2016: Peeple has launched, with a new paid “truth license” that allows you to read hidden reviews to come soon. You can read my latest take here. I work in social media. It is part of my job to stay up-to-date on the myriad new social networks that spring up like weeds every day. Some […]
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Ella Dawson 