The Boner Backlash: Stop Telling Me You Would Still Fuck Me

May 17, 2015.Reading time 15 minutes.

I get asked a lot if I have seen a backlash to my herpes activism. The simple answer is no, because it isn’t the backlash people expect. No one is raising ‘whore’ banners against me, and I largely ignore negative comments on social media when the response I’ve met has been so overwhelmingly supportive. There […]

The badass women of TED: or, my second herpes outbreak

April 1, 2015.Reading time 18 minutes.

I have never wanted to be flawless. It took a long time to understand that about myself. I don’t mean flawless in the “***flawless” Beyoncé sense; I mean perfect, undamaged, smooth—what young women are supposed to strive to be. My edges have always been jagged, and I’m a provocative person despite how much I loathe […]

Bachelorella update: Bachelor Nation turns on itself, calls out its sexism

March 10, 2015.Reading time 5 minutes.

I went to bed angry last night, and apparently I wasn’t the only one judging by the mess that was my Twitter feed this morning. Bachelor Nation seems in agreement that the decision to pit Kaitlyn and Britt against each other in the first episode of the upcoming season of The Bachelorette is tacky, shitty, and […]

Bachelorella Finale Recap: Why having two Bachelorettes is BULLSHIT

March 9, 2015.Reading time 12 minutes.

I’m going to try to recap the actual finale of The Bachelor before I descend into my rage spiral about the decision to have two Bachelorettes. Thankfully I wrote half of my recap during “After The Final Rose” before the big announcement, back when I had faith in society and was not shuddering with rage. […]

Some thoughts on split ends

February 26, 2015.Reading time 4 minutes.

So I’m growing out my hair. I’ve been thinking a lot about strength lately. Where we get it and who we get it from (or who gives it to us). How we can grow it, and if we have to earn it. I’ve always considered myself a strong person and it’s one of the first […]