I Am Not a Hugger
When someone I don’t want to hug walks toward me with their arms outstretched, I feel like I want to crawl out of my skin.
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“Bad Sex,” Or The Sex We Don’t Want But Have Anyway
Let me be clear: “bad sex” isn’t rape. By “bad sex,” I mean the sex we have that we don’t want to have but consent to anyway.
Read MoreWriting The Ones You Love(d): Consent In Sex Writing
Most of my essays start with a text message: “Hey, do you mind if I write about you for my blog?” What I’m really asking runs the gamut from hey, do you mind if I write about our not-quite-relationship that defies definition but makes me feel all giddy to hey, do you mind if I write […]
Read MoreHerpes, Two Years Later: On Sex Without Condoms
Can you have sex without condoms if you have genital herpes?
Read MoreConsent, Children’s Lit, and Ella Enchanted
Ella Enchanted makes it clear that obedience is not a virtue, and that never having the option to refuse is a miserable, unlivable existence.
Read MoreSenior week and wescam: Why we need #adultsexedmonth
The week before graduation at Wesleyan is referred to as “senior week.” When an underclassmen, senior week is the stuff of legend: a crazy final week of last minute hookups, road trips, alcohol-infused decision making, and out of control partying culminating in a gigantic party under a tent on the baseball field. Making senior week […]
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