A Sex Writer Takes a Thirst Trap

April 18, 2022.Reading time 5 minutes.

Did I care if people took my writing less seriously because I posted a lingerie selfie?

Britney Spears Deserves to Enjoy Her Nudes

January 6, 2022.Reading time 5 minutes.

An adult woman choosing to post pictures of her body is not a cause for concern or a sign that she is mentally unwell.

What Is This Feeling, So Sudden and New? It’s Misandry

January 1, 2022.Reading time 8 minutes.

For the first time in a long time, if ever, I am owning my anger toward men.

On Taking a Break From Men

September 4, 2021.Reading time 5 minutes.

Does it count as a mean phase when you are constantly provoked into anger?

You Don’t Need to Forgive People Who Hurt You

February 24, 2016.Reading time 8 minutes.

You do not need to forgive people who have been abusive to you. You do not need to rise above them, or make peace with them, or even pity them. You need to do whatever is best for you.

Everything 2015 Taught Me About Harassment

December 31, 2015.Reading time 11 minutes.

It would be easy to say 2015 was about herpes. In reality, this year was about my voice and the Internet and growing up and falling short. I conquered some demons by capturing a specter in words. I gained a few thousand Twitter followers. I broke my own heart and never wrote about it. I moved into […]

“Who Has The Time To Count Facebook Likes?” Fuck You, I Do.

December 28, 2015.Reading time 8 minutes.

I get so pissed off when people rag on social media. You know that conversation, usually at a cocktail party (oh who am I kidding, I’m twenty-three and I go to cramped apartment parties or loud bars where I have to strain myself to reluctantly listen to sermons about modern technology), when someone you thought […]

Bachelorella: The Bachelorette Gets Real About Online Harassment

July 20, 2015.Reading time 7 minutes.

The producers of The Bachelorette made an interesting choice during tonight’s “Men Tell All” episode. Between the awkward reunions and desperate attempts to rebuild reputations, Kaitlyn Bristowe and Chris Harrison had an honest conversation about the tidal waves of harassment this season’s Bachelorette has received online. In a controversial move, Harrison read out several real […]

The Boner Backlash: Stop Telling Me You Would Still Fuck Me

May 17, 2015.Reading time 15 minutes.

I get asked a lot if I have seen a backlash to my herpes activism. The simple answer is no, because it isn’t the backlash people expect. No one is raising ‘whore’ banners against me, and I largely ignore negative comments on social media when the response I’ve met has been so overwhelmingly supportive. There […]

I went to the Outlander premiere, where everyone laughed at domestic violence

April 5, 2015.Reading time 12 minutes.

I’m sitting in the beautiful Ziegfeld Theater in midtown Manhattan, watching a woman be beaten with a belt. The audience around me is laughing, clapping, and whistling. My plus one winces as he watches the scene through his fingers. I listen to the delighted howls echoing through the theater and wonder if I am missing […]