Writing The Ones You Love(d): Consent In Sex Writing

Most of my essays start with a text message: “Hey, do you mind if I write about you for my blog?” What I’m really asking runs the gamut from hey, do you mind if I write about our not-quite-relationship that defies definition but makes me feel all giddy to hey, do you mind if I write […]

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How I Lost My Post-Herpes Virginity

I was eighteen when I lost my virginity. A few weeks into my freshman year of college, I met a hipster with gorgeous blond hair and an obscure instrument slung over his shoulder, and a few weeks after that, we had sex. It was not altogether a memorable experience. What stuck with me weren’t any romantic details […]

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Everything I Know About Sex Writing I Learned From Taylor Swift

A couple years ago, I was sleeping with this guy. At nineteen I had yet to realize that what I actually wanted was a relationship, and with whom I wanted this relationship to be was even less clear. I also had yet to realize that what my partner wanted was a no fuss, no muss […]

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Book Review: Sex & Cupcakes

Rachel Kramer Bussel is one of those frighteningly prolific sex writers and editors who would scare the shit out of me if she weren’t so nice. I had the luck of meeting her at Catalyst Con this spring, and at the end of the night I found myself in a rowdy game of drunk Cards […]

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#humblebrag, I’m this week’s WesCeleb

This past weekend I was interviewed for The Wesleyan Argus by a friend of mine, the illustrious Gabe Rosenberg, about my time at Wesleyan and the work I’ve done with Unlocked Magazine. Unlocked is Wes’s student-run art and sexuality magazine, and over the past three years I revived it, re-staffed it, and published some incredible […]

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