Stop Calling It “Casual Sex”
Our concept of “casual sex” has given us permission to be casual with each other’s humanity.
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The Year I Didn’t, Couldn’t and Desperately Wanted to Write
For the last year I’ve been a sex writer who doesn’t write. I haven’t had much sex either, but that’s a different essay.
Read MoreWriting The Ones You Love(d): Consent In Sex Writing
Most of my essays start with a text message: “Hey, do you mind if I write about you for my blog?” What I’m really asking runs the gamut from hey, do you mind if I write about our not-quite-relationship that defies definition but makes me feel all giddy to hey, do you mind if I write […]
Read MoreHow I Lost My Post-Herpes Virginity
I was eighteen when I lost my virginity. A few weeks into my freshman year of college, I met a hipster with gorgeous blond hair and an obscure instrument slung over his shoulder, and a few weeks after that, we had sex. It was not altogether a memorable experience. What stuck with me weren’t any romantic details […]
Read MoreI’m in Another Book! “Tongue In Cheek” is Available Now
I’m delighted to be included in this badass collection published by For Books’ Sake, “Tongue In Cheek: The Best New Erotica Written by Women.”
Read MoreEverything I Know About Sex Writing I Learned From Taylor Swift
A couple years ago, I was sleeping with this guy. At nineteen I had yet to realize that what I actually wanted was a relationship, and with whom I wanted this relationship to be was even less clear. I also had yet to realize that what my partner wanted was a no fuss, no muss […]
Read MoreBook Review: Sex & Cupcakes
Rachel Kramer Bussel is one of those frighteningly prolific sex writers and editors who would scare the shit out of me if she weren’t so nice. I had the luck of meeting her at Catalyst Con this spring, and at the end of the night I found myself in a rowdy game of drunk Cards […]
Read More#humblebrag, I’m this week’s WesCeleb
This past weekend I was interviewed for The Wesleyan Argus by a friend of mine, the illustrious Gabe Rosenberg, about my time at Wesleyan and the work I’ve done with Unlocked Magazine. Unlocked is Wes’s student-run art and sexuality magazine, and over the past three years I revived it, re-staffed it, and published some incredible […]
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