BREAKUP SEX
Sex can be a vital language for two people who have run out of words, or for whom words are cheap and ineffective, unable to capture the wealth of tangled emotion still living in their chests.
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Stop Calling It “Casual Sex”
Our concept of “casual sex” has given us permission to be casual with each other’s humanity.
Read MoreThe Year I Didn’t, Couldn’t and Desperately Wanted to Write
For the last year I’ve been a sex writer who doesn’t write. I haven’t had much sex either, but that’s a different essay.
Read MoreWriting The Ones You Love(d): Consent In Sex Writing
Most of my essays start with a text message: “Hey, do you mind if I write about you for my blog?” What I’m really asking runs the gamut from hey, do you mind if I write about our not-quite-relationship that defies definition but makes me feel all giddy to hey, do you mind if I write […]
Read MoreHow I Lost My Post-Herpes Virginity
I was eighteen when I lost my virginity. A few weeks into my freshman year of college, I met a hipster with gorgeous blond hair and an obscure instrument slung over his shoulder, and a few weeks after that, we had sex. It was not altogether a memorable experience. What stuck with me weren’t any romantic details […]
Read MoreI’m in Another Book! “Tongue In Cheek” is Available Now
I’m delighted to be included in this badass collection published by For Books’ Sake, “Tongue In Cheek: The Best New Erotica Written by Women.”
Read MoreEverything I Know About Sex Writing I Learned From Taylor Swift
A woman who writes about the way she is treated, and who dares to quote men when they say something shitty, is public enemy number one.
Read MoreBook Review: Sex & Cupcakes
Rachel Kramer Bussel is one of those frighteningly prolific sex writers and editors who would scare the shit out of me if she weren’t so nice. I had the luck of meeting her at Catalyst Con this spring, and at the end of the night I found myself in a rowdy game of drunk Cards […]
Read More#humblebrag, I’m this week’s WesCeleb
This past weekend I was interviewed for The Wesleyan Argus by a friend of mine, the illustrious Gabe Rosenberg, about my time at Wesleyan and the work I’ve done with Unlocked Magazine. Unlocked is Wes’s student-run art and sexuality magazine, and over the past three years I revived it, re-staffed it, and published some incredible […]
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