HARMLESS: On Nonconsensual Violence During Otherwise Consensual Sex
He slapped me hard across the face and I am gone. I am no longer here in my body. I am somewhere else.
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On Reclaiming The Word “Slut”
I spent my teenage years terrified that I was a slut, and therefore I was not the type of girl who could be loved.
Read MoreYou Should Like The People You’re Having Sex With
The best casual sex — the best sex, period — happens between partners with a shared investment in each other’s wellbeing.
Read MoreWhen Your One-Night-Stand Ignores You On Campus
How humiliating and bizarre, to feel so close to someone and then watch him bolt out of the cafeteria when you got up to refill your Diet Coke.
Read MoreBREAKUP SEX
Sex can be a vital language for two people who have run out of words, or for whom words are cheap and ineffective, unable to capture the wealth of tangled emotion still living in their chests.
Read MoreStop Calling It “Casual Sex”
Our concept of “casual sex” has given us permission to be casual with each other’s humanity.
Read MoreThe Year I Didn’t, Couldn’t and Desperately Wanted to Write
For the last year I’ve been a sex writer who doesn’t write. I haven’t had much sex either, but that’s a different essay.
Read MoreWriting The Ones You Love(d): Consent In Sex Writing
Most of my essays start with a text message: “Hey, do you mind if I write about you for my blog?” What I’m really asking runs the gamut from hey, do you mind if I write about our not-quite-relationship that defies definition but makes me feel all giddy to hey, do you mind if I write […]
Read MoreHow I Lost My Post-Herpes Virginity
He must have been nervous, too. When the night finally arrived, he pulled a Ziplock bag out of his backpack full of condoms from the student health center.
Read MoreI’m in Another Book! “Tongue In Cheek” is Available Now
I’m delighted to be included in this badass collection published by For Books’ Sake, “Tongue In Cheek: The Best New Erotica Written by Women.”
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