Watch This Charming Short Film About Having Sex After a Herpes Diagnosis
People living with herpes are real, and we deserve to see our experiences in film. Here’s a start.
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“Bad Sex,” Or The Sex We Don’t Want But Have Anyway
Let me be clear: “bad sex” isn’t rape. By “bad sex,” I mean the sex we have that we don’t want to have but consent to anyway.
Read MoreThe First Time I Had Sex After Getting Herpes
I didn’t want to fuck—I wanted to disappear inside of him where it was safe, nestled in the warmth of his approval.
Read MoreIt’s STD Awareness Month 2016. Why Aren’t We Celebrating?
STD awareness is celebrating us, the people who live with STDs and dare to be, y’know, okay.
Read MoreThe Herpes Interviews: The Guy From The Bar
“I think the fact that I’m here tonight after five weeks speaks for itself.”
Read MoreHow I Lost My Post-Herpes Virginity
I was eighteen when I lost my virginity. A few weeks into my freshman year of college, I met a hipster with gorgeous blond hair and an obscure instrument slung over his shoulder, and a few weeks after that, we had sex. It was not altogether a memorable experience. What stuck with me weren’t any romantic details […]
Read MoreBachelorella: The Bachelorette Gets Real About Online Harassment
The producers of The Bachelorette made an interesting choice during tonight’s “Men Tell All” episode. Between the awkward reunions and desperate attempts to rebuild reputations, Kaitlyn Bristowe and Chris Harrison had an honest conversation about the tidal waves of harassment this season’s Bachelorette has received online. In a controversial move, Harrison read out several real […]
Read More6 Things To Read While I Get Over Writer’s Block
So I have writer’s block. That’s a lie, I’ve been writing a lot. My journal is hella packed with lyrical meditations on my feels. But in terms of polished essays and pop culture reviews, or wacky interviews about my vagina with ex-boyfriends, I am fried, dudes. Ella got nothin’. But that’s okay! Because the rest […]
Read MoreHerpes, Two Years Later: On Sex Without Condoms
Can you have sex without condoms if you have genital herpes?
Read More5 rules for better herpes journalism: or, I wrote about dating for Women’s Health!
I learned quickly after getting diagnosed with genital herpes that no one writes about having an STI. There are no memoirs about herpes. There are no academic studies about the literature of herpetic authors. There is a gigantic gaping hole on the Internet where herpes blogging should be, other than the herpes support community on Tumblr (which, […]
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