Healing From Trauma Is Messy

October 18, 2023.Reading time 1 minute.

You want to tell everyone everything that happened, and you want to never think about it again.

You Don’t Need to Forgive People Who Hurt You

February 24, 2016.Reading time 8 minutes.

You do not need to forgive people who have been abusive to you. You do not need to rise above them, or make peace with them, or even pity them. You need to do whatever is best for you.

How I Use Trigger Warnings

August 13, 2015.Reading time 15 minutes.

So The Atlantic published another (another?!) article about trigger warnings this week, meaning my Facebook and Twitter feeds were full of outraged baby boomers yet again. Trigger warnings have become emblematic of the over-sensitivity and out of control political correctness of my generation, if you believe the media and its breathless coverage of the “trend” […]

The badass women of TED: or, my second herpes outbreak

April 1, 2015.Reading time 18 minutes.

I have never wanted to be flawless. It took a long time to understand that about myself. I don’t mean flawless in the “***flawless” Beyoncé sense; I mean perfect, undamaged, smooth—what young women are supposed to strive to be. My edges have always been jagged, and I’m a provocative person despite how much I loathe […]