Valentine’s Day On a College Campus: Hallmark and the Hookup Scene

February 14, 2019.Reading time 9 minutes.

In an environment where caring is usually a weakness, what do you do about a holiday centered on showing that you care?

How I Use Trigger Warnings

August 13, 2015.Reading time 15 minutes.

So The Atlantic published another (another?!) article about trigger warnings this week, meaning my Facebook and Twitter feeds were full of outraged baby boomers yet again. Trigger warnings have become emblematic of the over-sensitivity and out of control political correctness of my generation, if you believe the media and its breathless coverage of the “trend” […]

Dear Class of 2015 (or, Dear Me 365 days ago)

June 4, 2015.Reading time 10 minutes.

If this letter seems late, that’s intentional. I wanted to wait until you needed it. Tomorrow you’re moving to Berkeley and you’re going to need a friend. Nowhere is going to feel like home in the same way campus did, but it took college a long time to feel like home in the first place. […]

Everyone at Wesleyan Has Herpes

May 5, 2015.Reading time 9 minutes.

It’s a Saturday afternoon. I am sitting at a table outside of Usdan, Wesleyan’s student center, under a big black umbrella. The sun toasts my exposed shoulders. A student journalist with the school paper asks me questions about my recent, surreal herpes stardom, and strangers at nearby tables peer over at me as I answer because […]

My 1st Blogiversary: Here’s what I wrote this year (with GIFs!)

January 7, 2015.Reading time 6 minutes.

One year ago today, I started this blog. I remember the moment I hit publish for the first time surprisingly well: it was a very cold night in January, and I sat at the kitchen island of my campus apartment with my laptop and a Diet Coke in an old-fashioned glass from the Dollar Tree. My blog was […]

A Comprehensive Guide to Wesleyan References in My Erotica

December 6, 2014.Reading time 13 minutes.

It’s a long running joke that my erotica is full of Wesleyan references.

I talked to The Gradmit about my post-grad feelings

October 4, 2014.Reading time 1 minute.

Where do I see myself in five years? In a perfect world I’d be writing freelance about sexuality, feminism, and pop culture while working on my best-selling series of feminist erotic novels. More realistically, I can see myself with a career in social media management and writing fiction off the clock. The Internet has opened up […]

Let’s talk about frats (realistically)

September 25, 2014.Reading time 18 minutes.

Disclaimer: Matt Leibowitz, founder of Consent Is So Frat, is one of my closest friends. During our senior year of college we used to sit on the floor of his bedroom and talk about how activists could enact change. That being said, I do not speak for him or for Consent Is So Frat. My opinions and […]

Can you really go back? Alumna dispatches from Wes

September 18, 2014.Reading time 8 minutes.

This weekend I went back to Wesleyan for the first time since graduating in May. That probably doesn’t sound dramatic considering the school year literally started two weeks ago. Returning students barely had time to get settled in before I rolled up in my nostalgia wagon, toting a bottle of André and a ton of anxiety. […]

Wesleyan’s Herpes Joke Problem

September 2, 2014.Reading time 7 minutes.

We need to talk about herpes jokes. In particular, we need to talk about herpes jokes and Wesleyan, my dear flawed alma mater. As my younger friends moved into their new dorms in Middletown this weekend, I searched tumblr for posts about STIs. I’m involved in tumblr’s sprawling sexual health support community and track the tags for […]