HARMLESS: On Nonconsensual Violence During Otherwise Consensual Sex
He slapped me hard across the face and I am gone. I am no longer here in my body. I am somewhere else.
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On Reclaiming The Word “Slut”
I spent my teenage years terrified that I was a slut, and therefore I was not the type of girl who could be loved.
Read MoreYou Should Like The People You’re Having Sex With
The best casual sex — the best sex, period — happens between partners with a shared investment in each other’s wellbeing.
Read MoreAm I Bisexual Enough For You?
Women fill me with warm fear. I do not know how to flirt with them, or even how to formulate complete sentences.
Read MoreWhen Your One-Night-Stand Ignores You On Campus
How humiliating and bizarre, to feel so close to someone and then watch him bolt out of the cafeteria when you got up to refill your Diet Coke.
Read MoreBREAKUP SEX
Sex can be a vital language for two people who have run out of words, or for whom words are cheap and ineffective, unable to capture the wealth of tangled emotion still living in their chests.
Read MoreIntroducing “LIFE RUINER,” A Micro-Memoir About Herpes and Abusive Relationships
While I’ve alluded to the less than ideal circumstances surrounding my herpes diagnosis, I’ve never told the story from start to finish.
Read MoreASK ELLA: How Do I Tell Someone I Have Herpes?
Telling someone you’re interested in that you have herpes means making yourself vulnerable.
Read MoreASK ELLA: Should I Date Someone with Herpes?
Whatever you decide, I hope you treat your “someone” with the respect and thoughtfulness you’re showing now as you learn about their virus.
Read MoreWhat I Wish I’d Known About Hookup Culture Before Going to College
You are not weak for having feelings. Getting pieces of yourself tangled up with someone else is part of the deal of sex sometimes. It’s not a crime to care.
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