ASK ELLA: How Do I Tell Someone I Have Herpes?
Telling someone you’re interested in that you have herpes means making yourself vulnerable.
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ASK ELLA: Should I Date Someone with Herpes?
Whatever you decide, I hope you treat your “someone” with the respect and thoughtfulness you’re showing now as you learn about their virus.
Read MoreWhat I Wish I’d Known About Hookup Culture Before Going to College
You are not weak for having feelings. Getting pieces of yourself tangled up with someone else is part of the deal of sex sometimes. It’s not a crime to care.
Read MoreYou Deserve a Partner Who Texts You Back
Maybe not immediately, maybe not every single time, but reliably and honestly and with care.
Read MoreStop Calling It “Casual Sex”
Our concept of “casual sex” has given us permission to be casual with each other’s humanity.
Read MoreValentine’s Day On a College Campus: Hallmark and the Hookup Scene
In an environment where caring is usually a weakness, what do you do about a holiday centered on showing that you care?
Read More4 Books to Read If You’re Worried You Don’t Know How to Love
Here is my curriculum for the emotionally lost and intimacy challenged.
Read MoreTwo Bisexuals Talk About Pride, Bi Erasure and Fan Fiction
“It’s kind of nice to just say, f*ck it, it doesn’t matter, I’m going to be me, or we’re going to do us, and claim the freedom to figure your shit out.”
Read MoreWatch This Charming Short Film About Having Sex After a Herpes Diagnosis
People living with herpes are real, and we deserve to see our experiences in film. Here’s a start.
Read More“Bad Sex,” Or The Sex We Don’t Want But Have Anyway
Let me be clear: “bad sex” isn’t rape. By “bad sex,” I mean the sex we have that we don’t want to have but consent to anyway.
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