Are You a Girlfriend or a Slut?
I spent my teenage years terrified that I was a slut, and therefore I was not the type of girl who could be loved.
Read MoreI spent my teenage years terrified that I was a slut, and therefore I was not the type of girl who could be loved.
Read MoreThe best casual sex — the best sex, period — happens between partners with a shared investment in each other’s wellbeing.
Read MoreWomen fill me with warm fear. I do not know how to flirt with them, or even how to formulate complete sentences.
Read MoreHow humiliating and bizarre, to feel so close to someone and then watch him bolt out of the cafeteria when you got up to refill your Diet Coke.
Read MoreSex can be a vital language for two people who have run out of words, or for whom words are cheap and ineffective, unable to capture the wealth of tangled emotion still living in their chests.
Read MoreWhile I’ve alluded to the less than ideal circumstances surrounding my herpes diagnosis, I’ve never told the story from start to finish.
Read MoreTelling someone you’re interested in that you have herpes means making yourself vulnerable.
Read MoreWhatever you decide, I hope you treat your “someone” with the respect and thoughtfulness you’re showing now as you learn about their virus.
Read MoreYou are not weak for having feelings. Getting pieces of yourself tangled up with someone else is part of the deal of sex sometimes. It’s not a crime to care.
Read MoreMaybe not immediately, maybe not every single time, but reliably and honestly and with care.
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