The Calmara.ai STI Screening Tool Is a Privacy Nightmare

March 19, 2024.Reading time 20 minutes.

Ask any sex educator if you should upload a picture of your genitals to an app for an STI diagnosis. They will all tell you the same thing: Absolutely not.

What It Feels Like to Have Herpes for 10 Years

May 9, 2023.Reading time 4 minutes.

Ten years ago I was diagnosed with herpes. Ten is a big, round number. Double digits. Meaningful. Right?

What I Wish More People Knew About STIs

July 30, 2021.Reading time 6 minutes.

A woman with red fingernails holds up a condom.

Most people in your life have an STI, they just don’t talk about it in casual conversation.

Getting Herpes Made My Sex Life Better

May 18, 2021.Reading time 10 minutes.

Disclosing your STI lets your partner know that they can trust you. You’ll be amazed by what they might tell you once that trust is established.

ASK ELLA: Should I Date Someone with Herpes?

June 25, 2020.Reading time 10 minutes.

Whatever you decide, I hope you treat your “someone” with the respect and thoughtfulness you’re showing now as you learn about their virus.

Herpes And Shame, Six Years Later

March 14, 2019.Reading time 16 minutes.

Healing isn’t fun or narratively appealing: it’s a whole lot of pulling off scabs and dissecting long broken bones that didn’t set properly. It’s hard.