My Thoughts on Usher’s Herpes Lawsuit
This is a complicated story where no one wins.
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Why I Celebrate The Day I Was Diagnosed With Herpes
On May 9, I commemorate a very important anniversary.
Read MoreThe First Time I Had Sex After Getting Herpes
I didn’t want to fuck—I wanted to disappear inside of him where it was safe, nestled in the warmth of his approval.
Read MoreWhy I Will Never Support Herpes Dating Sites
Let me be very clear: I will never endorse an STI dating site. Period. Ever. You’ve got the wrong woman.
Read MoreWatch My TEDx Talk: STIs aren’t a consequence. They’re inevitable. [With Transcript]
I don’t care how you got herpes. An STI is not a reflection of your character or a consequence of a bad decision.
Read MoreSo You’ve Just Been Diagnosed With Herpes
Here’s what you should know, from someone who has been through everything that you’re going through.
Read MoreI Am Not “Suffering” From Herpes
I’m exhausted today. Someone I’m seeing came over late last night to, in his words, “fuck the shit out of me,” and by the time he left it was just shy of 1:30am. I took a shower and then lazed around in bed, smelling him in my hair and remembering how he kissed my neck, how […]
Read MoreWe Can’t Allow Sexual Harassment In The Herpes Community
UPDATE 4/21/2016: Although I will always stand by the contents of the letter below, I no longer feel comfortable endorsing the work of Rafaella Gunz going forward. While I wish her well, we have professional differences as activists and as writers. The headline of this post has been changed to reflect that. No matter the circumstances, the sexual […]
Read MoreAll of My Coworkers Know I Have Herpes. It’s Great.
Tomorrow I’m giving a short talk about the work I’ve done this year to combat herpes stigma. Here’s the catch: I’m doing it at my office. For my entire company. Including everyone who works remotely on an internal live-stream. That’s somewhere between 150 and 200 of my coworkers, give or take a bunch of interns. […]
Read MoreThe (Not So) Black and White Ethics of Herpes
I’ve been thinking more and more about writing a book and the many reasons I don’t know if I can. I haven’t written a single word of what this memoir could be but I have already Googled ‘defamation of character lawsuit’ at least five times. Have you ever noticed it’s only rich, white men who sue […]
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