The Calmara.ai STI Screening Tool Is a Privacy Nightmare
Ask any sex educator if you should upload a picture of your genitals to an app for an STI diagnosis. They will all tell you the same thing: Absolutely not.
Read MoreAsk any sex educator if you should upload a picture of your genitals to an app for an STI diagnosis. They will all tell you the same thing: Absolutely not.
Read MoreTen years ago I was diagnosed with herpes. Ten is a big, round number. Double digits. Meaningful. Right?
Read MoreMost people in your life have an STI, they just don’t talk about it in casual conversation.
Read MoreDisclosing your STI lets your partner know that they can trust you. You’ll be amazed by what they might tell you once that trust is established.
Read More“I guess this is what I get for falling for a girl like you.” An insult tossed off so casually, so precisely designed to gut me.
Read MoreWhile I’ve alluded to the less than ideal circumstances surrounding my herpes diagnosis, I’ve never told the story from start to finish.
Read MoreRejection is always a risk because people are complicated and life is unfair. That rejection is unfair doesn’t make it sting any less.
Read MoreViruses do not care who we are. Viruses do not exist to exact karmic punishment. They are not agents of destiny or markers of character. They are not concerned with our petty human stories about who matters and who doesn’t. To COVID-19, we are just bodies.
Read MoreWhatever you decide, I hope you treat your “someone” with the respect and thoughtfulness you’re showing now as you learn about their virus.
Read MoreHealing isn’t fun or narratively appealing: it’s a whole lot of pulling off scabs and dissecting long broken bones that didn’t set properly. It’s hard.
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