Who Would I Be If I Hadn’t Gotten Herpes?

The lovely ladies over at Femsplain let me write about my fixation with parallel universes for their August theme “jealousy.” I’m not an especially jealous person beyond the usual who is that girl in that picture with my man moments on Facebook. But I do wonder about the Ella who never got herpes, and whether or not her […]

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Why We Need Clicky, Accessible Herpes Writing Too

Another piece for Women’s Health, another amusing stock photo choice. The real title for this piece should be “How to Not Be a Fucking Asshole,” but this was the headline they pitched me. It was harder to write than the other articles I’ve worked on for Women’s Health—having herpes isn’t like being an out queer person […]

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New in Women’s Health: How to Tell Someone You Have an STD

If I had a dollar for every time someone asked me in the past two months how to disclose being herpes+ to their partner, I would have enough money to cover my cell phone bill this month (and I use a LOT of data). I hate to break it to you but there is no magic script, […]

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5 rules for better herpes journalism: or, I wrote about dating for Women’s Health!

I learned quickly after getting diagnosed with genital herpes that no one writes about having an STI. There are no memoirs about herpes. There are no academic studies about the literature of herpetic authors. There is a gigantic gaping hole on the Internet where herpes blogging should be, other than the herpes support community on Tumblr (which, […]

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My writing is places: “Weirdest TED moments” on the TED Blog

Sometimes I write about things that are not sex (shocking, I know). Today I shared the 10 weirdest things that have happened in TED Talks for the TED blog, inspired by my wildly popular “what the fuck did I just watch” series of tweets. If you want to watch TED speakers stab themselves in the […]

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